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Fear of Loneliness

June 8, 2014 Speaker: Dan Davis Series: Face Your Fears

Topic: Sunday Message Verse: Romans 5:10–5:11

Fear Q&A (June 29)

For the last message in this series, we are going to answer your questions about fear. You can email them to You can send them via Twitter using #faceyourfears14. Or you can fill out a communication card.

The Poverty of Loneliness

“The most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved.” Mother Teresa

Loneliness vs. Being Alone

There is a difference between loneliness and being alone. Loneliness isn't limited just to those "natural candidates" we think of as lonely like singles or widows.

Surrounded and Lonely

While being alone can contribute to our loneliness, being with and around people doesn’t guarantee that loneliness will go away. Loneliness happens when we feel unknown by others and disconnected from them.

"Not Good"

“Loneliness is the first thing which God's eye named, not good.” John Milton. This is taken directly from Genesis 2.

Loneliness with God

Addressing our loneliness begins not with other people, but with God.

Romans 5:10-11 NIV

For if, while we were God's enemies, we were reconciled to him through the death of his Son, how much more, having been reconciled, shall we be saved through his life! Not only is this so, but we also boast in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.

2 Corinthians 5:20 NIV

We are therefore Christ's ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us. We implore you on Christ's behalf: Be reconciled to God.

People Can't Fill the God-Void

When we look to people to try to fill a void that only God can fill, we will feel like people are always letting us down.

Overcoming Loneliness #1

Know that God has a special heart for those who are alone

Psalm 27:10 NIV

Though my father and mother forsake me, the lord will receive me.

Psalm 68:5 NIV

A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling.

Overcoming Loneliness #2

2. Understand that no one is spared from bouts of feeling lonely in this life. (If it happens to you, it doesn't mean you're different, abnormal, or rejected).

Overcoming Loneliness #3

3. Invest in relationships you do have and don’t take them for granted.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 NIV

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.

Overcoming Loneliness #4

4. Don’t demand perfection from people—be gracious and forgive.

Matthew 7:12 NIV

So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.

Overcoming Loneliness #5

5. To build a good friendship, take the initiative but give it time.

Overcoming Loneliness #6

6. When it comes to marriage, don’t settle. Trust God’s provision and timing.

Overcoming Loneliness #7

7. Open your eyes and reach out to those who are alone.

Next Week (June 15)

Do people know the real you? Why is it so hard to open up and let people in? Join us next Sunday in our "Face Your Fears" series as Pastor Dan talks about the fear of being known. We'll look into Scripture together and discover the freedom of living without masks.


In light of the introduction from today's message, we thought you'd enjoy Jimmy Kimmel's not so serious look at "friends." Profound? No. Funny? We think so.


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