Fear of Conflict
Topic: Sunday Message Verse: James 4:11
Fear Q&A (June 29)
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James 4:1 NIV
What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you?
Addressing Conflict: WHY #1
(1) It’s commanded by God.
Addressing Conflict: WHY#2
(2) It's loving toward others.
Matthew 5:21-24 NIV
"You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, 'You shall not murder, and anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.' But I tell you that anyone who is angry with a brother or sister will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to a brother or sister, 'Raca,' is answerable to the court. And anyone who says, 'You fool!' will be in danger of the fire of hell. "Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.
Matthew 22:37-39 NIV
Jesus replied: "'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.'
Leviticus 19:18 NIV
"'Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against anyone among your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the lord.
Addressing Conflict: WHY#3
(3) It's worth it for us.
Matthew 5:9 NIV
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.
Matthew 7:1-5 NIV
"Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.
Avoiding conflict results in: (1) Shallow Relationships; (2) Strained Relationships; (3) Severed Relationships. But addressing conflict results in Stronger Relationships
Addressing Conflict: HOW#1
(1) Be honest with yourself and own what part you’ve played in the conflict.
Addressing Conflict: HOW#2
(2) Don’t just talk. Listen.
Addressing Conflict: HOW#3
(3) Diffuse. Don’t escalate.
Addressing Conflict: HOW#4
(4) Don’t get mad at everything. Sometimes you just need to let it go.
Addressing Conflict: HOW#5
(5) Do what you can and leave the rest to God.
Addressing Conflict: HOW#6
(6) Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
James 1:19-20 NIV
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.
Proverbs 15:1 NIV
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Proverbs 19:11 NIV
A person's wisdom yields patience; it is to one's glory to overlook an offense.
Proverbs 12:16 NIV
Fools show their annoyance at once, but the prudent overlook an insult.
Romans 12:17-18 NIV
Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
Colossians 3:13 NIV
Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.