You shall not commit adultery
Topic: Sunday Message Verse: Exodus 20:14
Outline for the TEN
Commandments #1-4 REVERENCE FOR GOD; Commandments #5-10 RESPECT FOR OTHERS. These two main ideas get repeated in the New Testament when Jesus is asked, “Teacher, what is the greatest commandment?” And He replies: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart… and love your neighbor as yourself.” (Matthew 22)
Exodus 20:14 NIV
"You shall not commit adultery.
“Marriage is the exclusive heterosexual covenant between one man and one woman, sanctioned by God, preceded by a public leaving of parents, consummated in sexual union, issuing a permanent mutually loving partnership.” (John Stott)
Malachi 2:14 NIV (Covenant)
You ask, "Why?" It is because the lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.
Genesis 2:24 NIV (Consummation)
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
Sex is like...
Nitroglycerin is both incredibly powerful as an explosive and extremely life-giving as a medicine. But it's also highly sensitive and very unstable. So while nitroglycerin can be used for good, because it's so volatile, things can go wrong quickly when it’s jarred or not handled properly. The nature of sex is just like that. When used as God intended it within the covenant of marriage, sex can be powerful and life-giving. It's a God-given superglue to help keep married couples together. But if you’re careless and reckless with your sexuality (married or single) and take it beyond God’s intended purposes, it will cause great damage and harm to yourself and to others.
A Word about Marriage
To those who are married: Don’t cheat on your spouse. Don’t believe the lie that the grass is greener on the other side, because it’s not. And you're already involved with someone else, stop it before it goes any further. Yes, it’s enticing and there’s that initial rush of adrenaline, but it’s not going to last. Satan is the master of the bait-and-switch, and he’ll gladly offer you short-term pleasure in exchange for long-term pain and regret. If your marriage is hanging on by a thread, don’t give up and get some help.
Another Word about Marriage
Marriage is hard. It’s two sinful people trying to set aside their own agendas for the sake of someone else. Even as Christians, our struggle with selfishness isn’t going to go away this side of heaven. The vision of endless of marital bliss and “happily ever after” isn't reality. Marriage is wonderful, but there’s a difference between “wonderful” and struggle-free. And so if you’re going through a rough patch, it doesn’t mean you married the wrong person. It doesn’t mean it’s time to end it. It just means you’re like every other married couple that needs Jesus to see them through.
Matthew 5:27-28 NIV
"You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Lust is adultery of the heart. It's a good desire gone bad. To lust is to imagine the sexual possibilities with someone else other than your spouse. It’s to look at (or to think about) them in a way that leads to sexual arousal. In talking about lust, Jesus confronts those of us who think we're fine just because we've never gone "too far."
Matthew 5:29-30 NIV
If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.
John 8:2-11 NIV
At dawn he appeared again in the temple courts, where all the people gathered around him, and he sat down to teach them. The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group and said to Jesus, "Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?" They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him. But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, "Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her." Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground. At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. Jesus straightened up and asked her, "Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?" "No one, sir," she said. "Then neither do I condemn you," Jesus declared. "Go now and leave your life of sin."
Words of Grace and Truth
Just as Jesus says to this woman, “Then neither do I condemn you," Jesus offers us the same hope and healing and forgiveness. Adultery is not the unforgiveable sin, and our sins of sexual lust are not too dirty for God to clean up. “There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” Yet in our forgiveness and restoration, there’s also the call to a new and different and better life. “Go now,” Jesus says, “and leave your life of sin.” Don’t stay stuck in your sin. Don’t keep returning to the folly of your ways. Go now, and instead of living your life thinking: “What can I get away with?,” ask yourself a new question: “God, in this and every area of my life, what can I do to most honor You?”